The Heartbeat

I have previously written to you about EDPs (emotionally draining people): those who will drain you by taking whatever they can get from you and leave you with little in return. Related to these people is the issue of to whom you should give your time.

The old saying is that "the squeaky wheel gets the oil" (or the squeaky axle gets the grease). That is, those who are the most vocal – those who make their needs known – tend to get the most attention. Another may be just as needy, or even more so, but because they are quiet they may go unnoticed. As a pastor your attention, your time, will often be directed towards these squeaky wheels. You will leave the ninety-and-nine and go after that one who has either wandered off or come to be in trouble. But I want to warn you: some people are always wandering off or always in trouble.

I know a woman whom I have learned to not ask, "How are you doing?" For unlike most people, that question can trigger an hour-long recitation of all of her ills. I have known her for 20 years and not once, in all those years, has she been doing "fine." Ask some people how they are doing and even if they are in the midst of a tremendous trial they will say, "Great!" But not this lady. She could win some big lottery and suddenly become a millionaire and all one would hear about are her problems.

So you need discretion, discernment. You need wisdom to know to whom you should give your time.

Now here is the "kicker" to all of this: the example of our Lord Jesus Christ. If we could somehow travel back in time to when Jesus was with his disciples, I am not convinced that we would have not been all that impressed with those men that he had selected to be around him. Matthew was a tax collector, so he was at least able in handling money (as was, we must assume, Judas, as he was made the treasurer of the twelve). But many of the men were fishermen, not attorneys or doctors. Indeed, though we know of certain religious leaders of the day who were impressed with Jesus (Nicodemus; Joseph of Arimathea), these were not the ones that Jesus chose to give himself to. This may also help explain Christ's own frustration and fatigue of working with these men as illustrated for us when, in Matthew 17:17 he said, "How long am I to be with you? How long am I to bear with you?" That is, how long am I going to continue putting up with you? It would seem that the disciples were not the sharpest pencils in the box.

So be careful that you don't write off those who are needy, even the EDPs. The Bible says that we should consider others better than ourselves (Philippians 2:3). Jesus modeled that for us by becoming like us and then spending time with us.

By His Grace,
Doug Winne

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